Updated: Dec 20, 2019
I remember laying in bed, tears streaming down my cheeks, wondering how a man like Richard could love me. All I saw in the mirror was a fat, useless, and stupid woman. There was never a positive word that floated through my head about myself. I was my biggest and harshest critic.
No matter how many times he told me I was beautiful, I sat in my shame and only believed the words that were silently being replaying in my head.
Self-love is a huge passion of mine. I know the difference that it can make in your life. Falling in love with who you are isn't impossible and I want to share with you 6 horrible mistakes you are making.
4 HORRIBLES MISTAKES YOU ARE MAKING WHEN IT COMES TO SELF LOVE
Perfection is the only way that self-love exists
There is no such thing as perfection. Not in what society deems as perfect at least. We are all perfect in our own way. There is no right or wrong way to be. The reflection that you see in the mirror today is PERFECTION. The reflection that you saw in the mirror yesterday was PERFECTION. The reflection that you will see in the mirror tomorrow will be PERFECTION. You, just as you are, are incredibly worthy of falling in love with yourself. Don’t wait until you get the perfect body, perfect hair, or perfect boyfriend.
That you have to love yourself before anyone else can
This is one I truly believe in. When Richard and I met, self-love was not something that I had. He met me at one of my darkest periods. It was with his love that I learned what love actually was. He taught me that I was worthy of love.
It took me years to realize that I could love myself as much as he loved me. And for that, I am forever grateful. It was because of his love that I realized I could love who I was in this present moment. Without his love, I am not sure where I would be today.
You hide who you truly are
We grow up thinking that in order to be liked, we have to hide the parts of us that don’t fit society. The parts of us that are “different” than those around us. But it is in those parts of us where we can truly be who we are supposed to be. Stop hiding. Stop pretending to be someone that you are not. Take the parts of yourself that you hide and show the world. They are part of your uniqueness. They are what make you YOU. No more hiding. No more pretending. Be you.
You compare yourself to other people
Comparison is the worst form of judgment you can place on yourself. There is no one that is like us. We are all unique. We are all the same. It’s crazy to think that most of us walking around, struggle with the comparison game. There is no need for comparison. We are all on our own journeys.
Our self-love journey is so individual that no one can compare their story to mine. You are worthy of loving who you are in this present moment. You are worthy of all the dreams that you envision for your life. Begin today by looking in the mirror and saying,
I ACCEPT WHO I AM IN THIS PRESENT MOMENT.
Say it over and over again. With time, you will begin to notice a change. You will begin to feel a shift within those walls you have built up inside of you. You will begin to feel more YOU than you have ever felt before.
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