Clutter finds a way into your world and begins to take over. It seems as if decluttering is taking over the world. From Marie Kondo to Tiny House Nation, getting rid of things is the next BIG thing. But why?
Have you ever truly noticed how you feel when you are surrounded by stuff? Like truly was present enough to notice? I am finding that as I get older, the clutter bothers me more. I begin to feel anxious. I begin to feel as if the stuff is going to keep piling up and there will be nowhere for me to run. Okay, that may be a BIT dramatic but there are moments when I feel trapped by all the things.
This doesn’t just include my physical environment. This includes my social media (have you ever just needed to take a break?) and my mental world. When things all add up, I feel bogged down by life and stuck.
Week 5 of Pillars of Transformation, was ALL about clutter. What do you do with it? How do you begin the transformation of things?
PILLARS OF TRANSFORMATION: WEEK 5
Everyone has a process. Every expert has their own way of doing things and teaching things to the world. And when it comes to decluttering, it is an extremely personal process. There is no right or wrong way to go about it. The only thing is to just start and to start small.
Shelly said that she keeps a box or a container in her home that she can put things into. This allows for her to be constantly decluttering. For me, that doesn’t work the same. I would have a hard time, “finding time” to get rid of that box. It would just be an extra step for me and one that I wouldn’t always be willing to take.
Luckily, every month, I now schedule Diabetes Canada to come to my house. So in March, they will be coming on a specific date. Which means I can now have that container on the go for my decluttering process. I have an end date set and in the calendar of when those things will be leaving my house. I don’t have to worry about finding the time or the energy to go and drop off my collection of things. There are no more excuses for me.
TIPS TO DECLUTTER YOUR HOME AND LIFE
If you have kids and they don’t like to declutter, do it while they are gone. Go through their toys while they are at school. They won’t even notice that you are getting rid of toys that they haven’t played with. Just make sure that you don’t give away their most prized possession because than the game is up. HAHAHAHA! I will go through my kids’ toys while they are at school and put it into a garbage bag for collection. This means they will NOT see what I am giving away and life goes on as if nothing has changed.
Clean our your email once a week. As I was on this week’s call with Shelly and she began to talk about decluttering. I saw my email icon on my computer. I opened it up and began to delete the 1,000s of emails that have gathered in my email account. I can’t be the ONLY one with that many emails, can I? It felt good. There was a wash of relief coming over me as I continued to delete what was in there.
You can even take it one step further than I did and completely unsubscribe to those emails that you know you don’t read but have never had the commitment to unfollow. I am here, being your cheerleader, telling you to just do it. Go for it. Unsubscribe from 5 people that you don’t enjoy reading their messages. Most likely, they won’t notice anyway.
Since this is a full life transformation, we need to talk about the clutter that is inside. This clutter can be the most confusing of all. How do we get rid of the clutter that is trapped inside of us?
Buy a journal. Begin by getting all of your thoughts out onto paper. It doesn’t have to make sense. It can be a complete brain dump. Just do it. Let it all out and begin to see the inner clutter dissipate.
Find a friend that you can talk to. Life can be lonely at times. Especially the big role that social media now plays. We live further away from our families and sometimes that means, we live further away from our friends. And making friends as an adult, IS NOT EASY. But that doesn’t mean that it can’t be done. I have been blessed to have a few really amazing friends now that I have met within the last 5 years. They are women that I can have a real conversation with and they listen. They allow me to share my deepest feelings without judgment. They allow me to be myself and share my worries and frustrations. Having someone like that in your life is truly important. If you need someone like that, reach out to me. I am more than happy to be your somebody when you are struggling.
Decluttering is a process. It isn’t something that happens overnight. It is a gradual journey that will teach you much about yourself. What it is that you truly want to surround yourself with and what is in your life that you want to get rid of because it no longer serves you. Every time you declutter, pull out that journal. Share the feelings that you felt before, during, and after the process. Watch as, over time, it begins to get easier. You don’t need to become an expert overnight. There are other people for that.