Who has time for self-care? That is your biggest concern, right? Or is it the guilt (Oh I understand that completely) that comes along with putting yourself first? Just adding another thing to your already overloaded to-do list. Well, that doesn’t have to be the case. Here is my story.
I am Samantha. An overworked mother of 3 but when I began this journey, I was an overworked mother of 2. Life was hectic and that was putting it mildly. I made it work. I put everyone’s needs above my own and by the end of each day, I was struggling. Struggling to stay awake. Struggling to have time with my husband. Struggling to just relax because there was still so much to do on that damn to-do list. If I didn’t cross everything off of that list every day, that meant that I was failing. I allowed it to control my life. I allowed my family’s every whim to control my life.
Until I began to work on myself. Self-care didn’t come first. There were many more steps that I took before self-care began but it changed my life. It made me realize that at the end of the day, I was still a person and I still needed to be taken care of. If I wasn’t going to do it for myself, no one was going to do it for me. I love my husband dearly but he just didn’t understand.
This didn’t mean that I was going out weekly getting my hair done or my nails done or even leaving the house because there were weeks that just couldn’t happen. I found other ways to do it. Excuses were no longer an option because my life was changing. I needed to figure this out or all the work I had done before this point, was for nothing.
SELF-CARE IN A MATTER OF MINUTES
You don’t need hours to refresh. Start small and build up. A self-care practice isn’t something that happens overnight. It will take getting used to and figuring out what makes you refill. For me, I wasn’t sure what that was anymore. I had been a mom for 7 years by this point and had lost who I was many years prior. I needed to take a moment to slow down and figure out what it was that brought a smile to my face and made me feel like more than a mom. That is part of the process. Relearning who you are after you become a mom and what sets your soul on fire.
I began by doing a hobby that I loved. I didn’t even wait until Annie was napping. I would get my things out while she was having playtime and would watch her while I did some crafting. My creative juices were flowing and I was doing something that I loved to do. I did, however, realize that it wasn’t something that lit me up anymore. I sat there and I absolutely hated doing the card making and the scrapbooking. Something that I once loved to do, just didn’t fulfill me anymore. I felt pressure to continue because I had spent a lot of money on all of the scrapbooking materials. The guilt set in and I kept with it until I realized that no matter the amount of guilt I felt, I no longer enjoyed it. I donated all of my supplies. I had to find something else.
I began to play around with things that I used to do and eventually I found activities that I could use to refill my cup. I began doing 1 thing per week. Even if I just had a spare 10 minutes, I did my activity of choice at that time. And built up.
Self-care doesn’t have to be all time-consuming. I want you to embrace the journey. Try new things and see if they make you smile. It is all about enjoying life and giving you a few moments to truly embrace who you are and what it is that you love to do.
A FEW SIMPLE SELF-CARE IDEAS
Read a book.
Have a shower.
Turn off the t.v.
Put your phone away.
Go to bed an hour earlier than normal.
Go for a walk.
Shave your legs.
Go to the coffee shop.
Do some yoga.
Watch the blog next week for tips on creating a self-care box for yourself.